"Happiness" What exactly is happiness? According to dictionary.com, it is the state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Seems to me it is not just being happy, it can vary from being contented to a state of euphoria. In Chinese, we have a saying: “知足常乐 ”。How apt it is used to describe the happiness we want. It covers the aspect of contentment, that if we feel contended, we will achieve happiness.
I am not one that is contented with my life, which is why I am unhappy at times. I have seen many who are contented and have a happy and jovial outlook towards life. I am trying hard to make do with those "flaws" that I possess, to disregard those unfulfilled desires, to be cheerful and jovial. Thought I had made some progress through the years, at times feel that I could do more. I have never bothered to understand what is intense joy, sadness, disappointment, or exhilaration before in the past. What is the feeling of intense joy like, is it as if you do not have any troubles, what can I do to attain this state of mind? I guessed many people have experienced intense joy, what is different is the definition of intense joy to them.
On Friday, listen to world of DTF at 8:30 p.m. At the end of it, DTF tell us a very simple principle, that happiness can be very simple. Happenings that occur in everyday life can serve as mementos in the future. I totally agreed to it, in the past, found myself in real misery by always focusing on the flaws and unattainable desires of life, now a simple dinner out with my family can be so heartening and enjoyable. Indeed, if you are not so idealistic, happiness can be simple, and it can be attained when you are happy.
However to me, to attain happiness, I guessed there is still a long way to go. I am currently happy, but failed to be in a state of euphoria. Of course not many will differentiate happy and happiness. I define happiness as a calm and euphoric state of mind in which you are contented and blessed, and happy as being glad, ecstatic, jubilant and exhilarated. A state of well being need not be applied to physical health, it can be used on mental health as well. Maybe to me, I am still a perfectionist to some extent, tend to want to do everything to my most ideal manner. Alright, I end here now.
Sunday, June 10, 2007
Friday, June 01, 2007
Lost
Well, not trying to be emotional or what, somehow feel quite lost in life recently. Everyday past by so quickly that I have no time to do some deep thinking. Lots of thoughts came to mind, wondered why I am in this state suddenly. Many things I planned for did not proceed as planned. University plans, plans to be more vocal and brave, plans to be more mature. Perhaps we cannot possibly live our life as planned, I was so foolish. Though everyday is happy, as everyone in the family is safe and I am healthy, somehow when I thought of all these plans, I get disillusioned.
Life during my younger days was more innocent and less stressful. When one grows older, we cannot do everything to the best we want, we need to set priorities. Nevertheless, to be alive is a blessing, too many unpredictable events, terrorism, natural mishaps, health problems, and too many possible events to take our lives away. Just like we never know when we are born, we never know the exact time and date when we have to leave this world. We are too busy at times to reflect on our actions, to meditate, to attain tranquility in our minds.Read some books on emotional intelligence before, they advocate that we should have time to reflect on out actions and have some time to meditate. In the past, thought that meditation is too abstract for many to accept, now find that everyone of us is capable of doing that. If we put in effort to do that everyday, I believe we will feel more at ease.
I don't know how many people are like me, prefer to believe in a more ordered life, every year we need to do certain things, like working by a certain age, I know it is boring but I feel terrible is my life isn't going as planned. That is why I feel lost now. Well, guess I need to reflect on this "weirdness", if not I will only make me unhappy. Alright, I end here now.
Life during my younger days was more innocent and less stressful. When one grows older, we cannot do everything to the best we want, we need to set priorities. Nevertheless, to be alive is a blessing, too many unpredictable events, terrorism, natural mishaps, health problems, and too many possible events to take our lives away. Just like we never know when we are born, we never know the exact time and date when we have to leave this world. We are too busy at times to reflect on our actions, to meditate, to attain tranquility in our minds.Read some books on emotional intelligence before, they advocate that we should have time to reflect on out actions and have some time to meditate. In the past, thought that meditation is too abstract for many to accept, now find that everyone of us is capable of doing that. If we put in effort to do that everyday, I believe we will feel more at ease.
I don't know how many people are like me, prefer to believe in a more ordered life, every year we need to do certain things, like working by a certain age, I know it is boring but I feel terrible is my life isn't going as planned. That is why I feel lost now. Well, guess I need to reflect on this "weirdness", if not I will only make me unhappy. Alright, I end here now.
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